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When my kids were little I used to yell. A lot. For those that know me now, you probably don’t believe that. It’s true. I had a lot of anger in me that came out when I was stressed. I was almost always stressed when I had a 3 year old and twin 2 year olds. Life was hard and I often felt alone. I had never really felt real stress like that and I had no idea how to handle it.
Over the years I learned how to identify my feelings and deal with them a little at a time. I had to acknowledge each feeling and process it in a new way. I had to think about what was really bothering me and work through it. It was a slow and difficult process but it changed me. Love slowly won.
My kids, who are teenagers now, luckily don’t remember those years. At least not the part about me being completely stressed out and yelling. They don’t remember me as an angry, stressed out mama. They just remember the love.
They remember me taking them to the park almost every day to play for hours. They don’t know that I did that because it was a way to get out of the house and be in the sunshine, and make friends. They just remember the love.
They remember me making them their favorite peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, practically every day. They had no idea that I liked making those for them because it was so easy and I liked the control of making them perfectly, with the peanut butter spread to every corner. They just remember the love.
They remember all of us snuggling in bed every night, while they fell asleep in our arms. They don’t know that we did that because we were so completely exhausted and done for the day. And how they didn’t fall asleep easily and this was the easiest way to keep our sanity. They just remember the love.
Love can win. You can chose to live a life with more and more love and less and less anger and stress. You can’t always control your situation, but you can control how you handle it. You can’t control what people say to you, or how they treat you, but you can control how you react to them and how you talk to yourself. You can remember the love.
Love can triumph over everything in your life. You have to consciously choose love every day. You have to find ways to make yourself feel good and important every day. This may seem unattainable if you are living a life full of stress, anger, hate, regret and guilt. Those things are strong and powerful forces. Love is still capable of overcoming. Love can be even more aggressive if you let it. You can remember the love.
You can focus on the good and you can work on improving the bad. You can remember every day the things that you have in your life that you can be grateful for. You can get professional help when you feel like you don’t have the tools you need to succeed in life. You can reach out to the ones in your life that you love so much, and tell them how you feel. You can remember the love.
Remember the love this week, and not the stress. You are a beautiful person and you are worthy of being loved and being someone who can truly and powerfully love those around you. Remember the love and let love win today.
I hope you will continue to join me on this journey.
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